Hey girl,

It’s that time of year again—the holidays are here, and while the twinkle lights and festive vibes are unmatched, so is the chaos. Family dynamics, packed calendars, unsolicited opinions (looking at you, Aunt Linda)—it’s enough to make anyone want to hide in the pantry with a glass of Pinot and the good cookies.

But here’s the deal: you get to decide what this season feels like. It’s your holiday, too. So if you’re feeling pulled in a million directions, overwhelmed, or just straight-up done, I’ve got you.

I’m sharing 5 simple phrases to give you the courage to create boundaries, say no without guilt, and sprinkle some serious self-care into your season. These are your go-to one-liners for a stress-free, joy-filled holiday—because you deserve nothing less.

Let’s reclaim the magic, protect our peace, and leave the stress to the turkey timer.

Let’s get into it.

It's Giving "Boundaries"

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1. "let me get back to you on that."

• Why it works: It buys time to decide if you really want to say yes.
• When to use it: Someone asks you to host dinner, attend an event, or take on an extra responsibility.
• Add personality: “Because ‘yes’ on the spot often turns into regret later.”

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2. "i love you, but i won't be able to make it."

• Why it Works: You’re being honest and kind, and “no” is a full sentence.
• When to use it: To politely decline anything from toxic family events to the 3rd holiday potluck invite.
• Add relatability: “Repeat it in the mirror. Say it with love. Now go light a holiday candle and enjoy your night in.”

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3. "Thank you, but that doesn't work for me right now."

• Why it works: It’s polite but firm. No explanations needed.
• When to use it: For setting boundaries around gift exchanges, holiday commitments, or even food choices.
• Bonus tip: Remind your readers: “Your needs matter just as much as everyone else’s.”

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4. "I'm choosing what feels good for me & my family this year."

• Why it works: It centers your choices on your values, not guilt.
• When to use it: When explaining why you’re skipping a tradition or simplifying the season.
• Personality touch: “Yes, skipping the 7-course feast is self-care.”

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5. "I'm Giving myself some grace this holiday season, I hope you do, too."

• Why it works: It models self-compassion and invites others to relax their expectations.
• When to use it: When you’re not perfect—like the cookies burned, you forgot a gift, or you said no to the 5th festive party.
• Add humor: “Because Pinterest-perfect holidays are overrated, and burnt cookies still taste great with wine.”

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The holidays are about joy, not juggling—so use these 5 phrases to set boundaries, protect your peace, and give yourself grace. Remember, saying “no” with love is a gift to yourself and your family. This season, do what feels right for you and leave the stress behind. A quick recap leading into the "meat" of the holiday season:

• 5 phrases = your holiday toolkit for boundaries, grace, and stress-free vibes. Pack these in your purse, suitcase or baby bag, because we are bringing these tools everywhere we go.
• Saying “no” doesn’t make you mean—it makes you mindful. And the ones who think you are mean for creating these boundaries, well hey girl, that's your sign that boundaries were indeed the right move.
• You get to choose what feels right for you and your family this season. Your happiness, in the most beautiful, empowering way, is a selfish process. While running around like a chicken with your head cut off this month, don't forget to put you first.

So remember, girl—your peace is priceless, your “no” is powerful, and you’re allowed to enjoy the holidays your way. Give yourself grace, protect your energy, and let the magic of the season be yours.

You’ve got this.

Love always,​
​Kristen

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